Couples Counseling

Most couples know what makes them feel criticized or dismissed by their partner. You can probably rattle off a list without even thinking about it. But here’s what’s interesting: When I ask couples to tell me what their partner does that makes them feel loved, respected, or admired, they often go blank. Or they struggle. … Read more

You’re trying to understand your partner. You notice tension, maybe a shift in their tone or body language. So you ask what seems like a reasonable question: “Why are you angry?” Instead of opening a conversation, you just slammed a door. Your partner insists they’re not angry. Now you’re both arguing about whether they’re angry … Read more

You know that feeling when your partner forgets to text back and suddenly you’re convinced they don’t care anymore? Or when they explain why they didn’t do the dishes and all you hear is excuses? Welcome to what relationship researchers call negative sentiment override. It’s the relationship equivalent of wearing glasses that filter out anything … Read more

You meet someone who seems like everything you’ve been hoping for. The conversations flow easily. They’re articulate, accomplished, interesting. You can picture a future together, maybe blending families, traveling, building something meaningful as you enter this new chapter of life. Then the pattern starts. They leave when you don’t meet an expectation you didn’t know … Read more